Below are comments from real Comfort Christian Counseling clients. Names are not shown to protect confidentiality.
"What I found most helpful about the intensive was the support I received after finding out the new information from my husband and the real life experience they had to relate to us. Jeff could really get through to my husband because he's been there!!"
"The polygraph forced complete honesty on my part. It was the first time in a very long time that I was honest. It feels good to finally not have a large secret that I was hiding from my spouse."
"I look back at our intensive as a "fast track" to healing. It was the starting point for our recovery. While many people talk about going though disclosure with a polygraph, it seems to end there for many. The intensive allowed us to have a next step after disclosure. Once everything was exposed, we were able to begin to make plans as to how we would handle our future. The intensive gave us a plan for recovery that we use as a continuous tool for recovery and healing. Jeff and Ella were the perfect therapists for us as they could relate to our situation, used Biblically based principles with a Christ-centered focus, and provided us hope as they reflected on their own experience."
"I felt so comfortable that I could talk about anything and not get judged, just get healthy feedback. This was probably the best thing that I've ever done and I am eternally thankful to my wife for finding this. Jeff and Ella have an authentic approach. Honestly, for me the only draw back was the drive. Yeah, it was that good."
"It's been a little over a year since we were in TX for our 3 Day Intensive. We thought you might like an update. Things are going well for us. Ron (name changed) has been clean and Sarah (name changed) has been working through triggers to resolve hurt & anger. Our relationship is stronger than we've ever known it to be in all aspects: emotionally, mentally, and physically. Thank you both for the work you do. Your 3 Day Intensive saved us a lot of grief should we have continued to face addiction on our own. We were stuck and you helped us to unglue to restore health to our union. Both of us are better for the time we spent in Texas and the hard work we've done together since last summer. We appreciate you as we pray to God that your relationship and work remain strong."
"Going into the intensive, I was scared about whether or not our marriage would survive and whether or not the problems that existed in our marriage could be overcome. Jeff and Ella gave us a jump start on dealing with the infidelity in our marriage and finding ways to show love and support to each other, not only through strategic counseling, but also through compassionate understanding of the problems that existed in our relationship and personal life. We both came away from the intensive feeling like our marriage could survive and that although there would be a long road of recovery ahead, that with God, our marriage could become better and that both of us could grow along the way. Although our marriage continues to have daily struggles, we are much better equipped for healing and recovery as a result of the experience both of us had at the intensive and continue to have through continued support from Jeff and Ella. I would highly recommend the intensive to those struggling to find healing in their marriage as a result of infidelities and to those that are SERIOUS about making a positive life change that would benefit not only yourself, but your spouse as well. Jeff and Ella, thank you for your ministry to those that are walking the road that the two of you have painfully and thankfully walked. Although you may not always feel that you are making a difference, please know that you are making a profound impact on my life and my wife's life and that God is working through the two of you. Thank you for your investment in the healing process and for helping to interject healing into marriages that suffer from painful addictions."
"Dear Ella and Jeff,
It is with extreme gratitude that this letter is written. January 2013, my husband and I sat with you for a 3-day intensive. It was a very dark time in our marriage as I had learned a year prior that my husband was struggling with sexual addiction. We had tried a number of other intensives, yet we had not found treatment that had been effective in helping my husband achieve long term sobriety and that was sensitive to the extreme trauma I was experiencing. I had begun to wonder if our marriage would survive.
I am so happy to say we left the intensive feeling heard and understood for the first time, and had a glimmer of hope! It has now been almost 3 1/2 years and we are so appreciative of the opportunity we have had to sit under your counsel, encouragement, and guidance. I often share with others how critical our work with you and Jeff has been in our recovery journey and that it has likely been what has helped create the greatest impact for significant change.
Many thanks for the huge investment you have both made in our lives to turn the tide, and are continuing to make in the field of sexual addiction!"
"I seriously can’t thank you guys enough for all you did for us through the intensive. I’m fairly certain that if we hadn’t attended there would be no hope for us long term. You both are incredibly gifted and it is evident that you truly care."
"Hey Jeff, Thank you for your time, talent, and heart this week. I don't think I can't overstate how much this is going to do for me, and for my marriage.."
"My husband and I just recently had an Intensive with Ella and Jeff. I would highly recommend this to any couple that share in the same struggles as my husband and myself. Ella and Jeff truly provided me with a life changing experience. Their tenderness, warmth, compassion, and faith made the experience more at ease. The entire process left me feeling energized and hopeful in a time when some may feel or believe all hope is lost."
"The group has helped me cope and heal after the revelation of my husband's sex addiction. I found comfort and insight from other women in the group. Ella is an amazing counselor. Her wisdom has been such a great blessing to me."